Hi! I'm so glad you are here!

I hear from so many wig sisters who struggle with their husband's acceptance of their hair.  Either they don't want them to wear wigs at all, or they aren't on the same page regarding styles and colors that they like. 

Wig wearing support is so important and it can be so challenging when our husband's disagree with us on our hair preferences. When they verbalize their differing opinion we are often tempted to get defensive and fire back that it is our hair and our bodies and our decision. Hey, I've been there. My husband has strong opinions about hair. At first I was a little offended and put off by this. On the one hand I want him to think I'm beautiful and be attracted to me, but on the other I want to wear what I want and wish that he would just like it!

Our culture is certainly no help. There is very little respect for marriage today. The divorce rate and the number of marriages that are struggling are skyrocketing. We are told that men do not deserve our respect and deference on anything. If they don't conform to our wills and desires they are disposable.  We put so much focus on external things that we forget our roles as women of God. Take a look at the following Bible verses:

 “Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love." - Ephesians 4:2

"The heart of her husband trusts in her, and he will not lack anything good. She rewards him with good, not evil, all the days of her life." Proverbs 31:11-12 

"In the same way, wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands so that, even if some disobey the word, they may be won over without a word by the way their wives live when they observe your pure, reverent lives. Don’t let your beauty consist of outward things like elaborate hairstyles and wearing gold jewelry or fine clothes, but rather what is inside the heart — the imperishable quality of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight." 1 Peter 3:1-4 

How about we flip the script? I know wigs and hair seem like little things, but the more we model the love and respect we want from our men, the more God will be glorified and will work on their hearts.  

Look, I think we can have fun with hair, makeup, clothes, etc... but we MUST keep these things in their proper place and not let them distract us from what is important, otherwise they become sinful. When we allow ourselves to get lost in the things of this world, we are in direct disobedience of our Father.  God gave us the gift of His love, mercy, and grace. He also gave us the gift of marriage. There is nothing more important than these and don't let your pride and selfish will tell you anything different. Hair or no hair, we are beautiful in God's eyes and He doesn't put physical appearance or worldly things above our obedience to Him, and neither should we. 

If you are struggling with your husband please let me pray for you and support you. Our role as obedient women of God is not always easy... but you don't have to go it alone. We can lift each other up as sisters and I would love to walk with you, if you are willing. Please reach out.  I love you all so much!